Divorce is one of the most recognized life stressors. According to the “Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale,” it ranks second only after death of a spouse, and is more stressful than imprisonment or death of a close family member. These are stressors that can cause illness.
As much as many like to market divorce as “a new beginning,” I think most divorcing couples view it as an end, or at least a very impactful restructuring. The divorce process does not help ameliorate the fight-centered, winner-and-loser view of divorce. There is a better method to ending a marriage that is not adversarial: “collaborative divorce.”
With collaborative divorce, both parties sign a collaborative divorce agreement detailing what can be done and how it will be done. If one party breaches the contract, then the party’s attorneys are prohibited from representing them in court. There are other incentives to follow the agreed-upon rules. The goal is *negotiating,* where both parties get their needs met and both parties compromise.
Divorce is a major life stressor for the children involved–watching their parents negotiate and restructure the family without acrimony should be the main motivation to seek a collaborative divorce.
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